1. In your mind, where does the dating age begin?
2. Do you think a friendship between a boy and girl would last longer as boyfriend girlfriend or as just friends, OR does it matter???
3. For all of those 18 and under, have you ever asked a girl/boy out? At what age? and WHY?
4. Last, what will you and do you look for in a friend?
(boy for girls and girl for boys.)
I, as a teenage girl, have other teenage friends who are (or at least WHERE) all into the boyfriend girlfriend stuff. One friend, not name'n names here, wrote me an long e-mail one time explaining how she and this boy she likes where ALMOST boyfriend and girlfriend. AND that they might be SOON. How she told him that she like him. How he reacted. How he huggged her. How she was so sure thins was it. And my sister and I wrote back about saying HOW SHE WAS ONLY 12 YEARS OLD!!! I am going to copy and paste (Yes, I got my friends permission!) the letter I sent her on here. I am only changing were it says his and her names. I hope then you can see where I come from with this subject.
Lanna and Joe this time.
Not (nickname) this time, I'm talking to (friend). What? Did I read wrong? Why (friend)? What happened to (FRIEND)? What you wrote down below is nothing like me, or YOU! (Boy) is just a boy. B-O-Y. You are a G-I-R-L. Still young. I think of it this way:
You are young for only a few more years. Don't rush growing up. Having boys as friends is fine.....like to just hang out with and (say you are me for a moment) make movies and play music. Do everything you would do with (Friend's friend) or ME. Why would anybody want to grow up to fast? I like being young, goofy, full of action.....I don't talk with my friends about guys or "flirting" or who's "hot." I talk about who's gonna run through the sprinkler first, or how good that song we just heard is, or how it feels so good to be a kid, free of adults' work, and free of adults' worry. Free of grown-up pressures. I suggest you talk to your mom about (Boy) and your feelings. It's not like (Boy) is marriage material!!! Ew! And I seriously doubt that you are ready for marriage, right?!?
When I heard of your situation, it reminded me of a song that you showed me. I thought of this song whenever you spoke of (Boy).
Hold On By Nichole Nordeman
It will find you at the bottom of a bottle It will find you at the needle's end It will find you when you beg and steal and borrow It will follow you into a stranger's bed It will find you when they serve you with the papers It will find you when the locks have changed again It will find you when you've called in all your favors It will meet you at the bridge's highest ledge So baby don't look down- it's a long way The sun will come around to a new day So hold on Love will find you Hold on He's right behind you now Just turn around And love will find you It will find you when the doctor's head is shaking It will find you in a boardroom mostly dead It will crawl into the foxhole where you're praying It will curl up in your halfway empty bed So baby don't believe that it's over Maybe you can't see 'round the corner To hang between two thieves in the darkness Love must believe you are worth it You're worth it
Joe's right, this song is right. Listen to the chorus at its deepest meaning.
So hold on Love will find you Hold on He's right behind you now Just turn around And love will find you
Hold on....Love and being grown up will come, when God wants it to....God's right behind you all the time. Turn to Him. Don't walk on a tight rope when there's fire beneath. I don't mean to hurt you're feelings or anything but we care about you and your choices. When we saw what you wrote, it kind of made us feel like we needed to at least say something. Who else will? Your mom would be at great help.
I thought about saying something to you before, but I didn't think you would make that choice.
Even though you saw it as good, imagine how God would look at it all.
I have hugged, shaken hands with, talked to , walked with, and just hung out with guys before. BUT as a friend, not like what you might picture. I think that friends should be friends. No more. Maybe you can find some other cool kids, boys and girls, who agree with this. Maybe you'll make some friends. You can always come to me for advise and I will try my hardest to answer.
We don't expect you to agree right away. Just think about it. And no matter what your choice is, we love ya!
Your friends forever,
Lanna and Joe
P.S. Remember, any teenage boy that thinks a 12 year old girl is "hot" needs to have his head examined, no matter how cute she is. Don't fall for it.
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting.
Teenaged boys: n. (teeen aaajed boweeez) 1. One step above ape.
(NO affence GUYS!!!! We just wanted to cheer her up with a joke. SORRY!)
Anyways, when the time comes, you will find LOVE.
Also, I don't believe in dating. I believe that when the time is right, courtmanship is much better.
I have a few BOY FRIENDS (note the space.) We are just friends and they know that. Also, if a guy or girl dosn't agree with you on this, they are not worth being close friends with anyways.
Now rethink those questions and let me know if you have any questions.